When you do something assertively, you speak or act in a clear, sure way, so other people can see what you want and that you mean it. You are not shouting, and you are not trying to win by force — though actually people mix this up with “aggressively” all the time.

When you do something assertively當你果斷地做一件事, you speak or act in a clear, sure way你講話或行動的方式清楚又篤定, so other people can see what you want讓別人看得出你要什麼 and that you mean it也知道你是認真的。You are not shouting你不是在大吼, and you are not trying to win by force也不是想用強硬手段贏——though actually people mix this up with "aggressively" all the time不過大家其實常常把它跟「aggressively（有攻擊性地）」搞混。

Teachers, bosses, and self-help books love this word: you ask for the seat, you say no to extra work, you tell a friend the plan has to change, and you do it looking them in the eye, without a long sorry.

Teachers, bosses, and self-help books love this word老師、老闆、還有心靈成長書都很愛用這個字: you ask for the seat你開口要那個座位, you say no to extra work你拒絕多加的工作, you tell a friend the plan has to change你告訴朋友計畫得改, and you do it looking them in the eye而且你是看著對方的眼睛講的, without a long sorry不用先講一長串抱歉。

It is not rude if you stay kind; it is just not shy. In everyday talk many people would simply say “firmly” or “clearly.” Assertively sounds a bit more like a skill you practised, not a mood you woke up with.

It is not rude它不算沒禮貌 if you stay kind只要你保持友善; it is just not shy只是不害羞而已。In everyday talk日常對話裡 many people would simply say很多人乾脆就說 "firmly" or "clearly."「firmly（堅定地）」或「clearly（清楚地）」 Assertively sounds a bit more like a skill you practisedassertively 聽起來比較像是你練出來的一種技巧, not a mood you woke up with而不是你早上起床時剛好有的心情。