Not fitting the picture people have of how a man should be. It is used to criticise a man for crying, for being afraid, for backing away from a fight, for caring about clothes — whatever a particular society has decided men are not supposed to do.

Not fitting不符合 the picture people have of大家心目中對於 how a man should be男人該有的樣子的印象。It is used to criticise a man這個字是用來批評一個男人 for crying因為他哭、for being afraid因為他害怕、for backing away from a fight因為他打架時退縮、for caring about clothes因為他在乎穿著——whatever a particular society has decided men are not supposed to do反正就是某個社會認定男人不該做的事

The key thing to understand is that the word carries a judgement that comes from outside: it does not describe the man, it describes how others rank him against a rule.

The key thing to understand要理解的關鍵是 is that the word carries a judgement that comes from outside這個字帶著一種來自外部的評斷：it does not describe the man它描述的不是這個男人本身， it describes how others rank him against a rule而是別人拿一套規則來評他的方式

It is an old-fashioned word, and today most English speakers use it carefully or not at all, because the idea behind it — that fear or gentleness is a failure in a man — is one many people now reject. So you meet it in three places: in older books, where it is meant seriously; in the mouths of characters we are supposed to disagree with; and in modern writing, often with quotation marks or a hint of irony, when someone is describing that old rule rather than agreeing with it.

It is an old-fashioned word這是個老派的字， and today most English speakers use it carefully or not at all現在大部分英語使用者用得很小心、甚至根本不用， because the idea behind it因為它背後的想法——that fear or gentleness is a failure in a man也就是害怕或溫柔是男人的失敗——is one many people now reject是現在很多人已經不認同的。So you meet it in three places所以你會在三種地方遇到它：in older books, where it is meant seriously在舊書裡是認真使用的、in the mouths of characters we are supposed to disagree with在我們該不認同的角色口中、and in modern writing還有在現代寫作裡，often with quotation marks or a hint of irony常常加引號或帶點諷刺，when someone is describing that old rule rather than agreeing with it是在描述那套舊規則而不是同意它

There is also an adverb use, 'unmanly', though 'in an unmanly way' is far more natural now. If you simply want to say that something does not suit a man, 'unmanly' is not your word — it will sound like you are shaming him.

There is also an adverb use, unmanly也有副詞用法「unmanly」，though in an unmanly way is far more natural now不過現在說「in an unmanly way」自然多了。If you simply want to say that something does not suit a man如果你只是想說某件事不適合男人， unmanly is not your word「unmanly」不是你要的字——it will sound like you are shaming him聽起來會像在羞辱他